Extended Relief

{Eric Brittingham}

What is Romance?

Tom some, romance comes easy. some people seem to be born with the ability to create romance out of nothing. when you think of romance- what is the first to come to mind? a room illuminated by vanilla scented candles? a bed covered in rose peddles? a white sanded beach at sunset? those enviroments seem to be the most typical ideas of romance. what romance seems to be lacking now-a-days is creativity. sure, it may seem like there is nothing left. what is more romantic than sipping wine in front of a fireplace? romance is more simple than what one may imagine. the first approache you take in creating a romantic night with your lover is to make her feel important. Cheyenne is with out a doubt the most important person in my life. i cant imagine how life would be with out her. her support has givin me the confidence to make a living for the both of us. Cheyenne and i dont always see eye-to-eye on various matters, and that results in arguments. i know that i dont always treat cheyenne the way that she deserves to be treated, and i feel that it goes both ways. i'm not blaming anything on cheyenne- i know that i am more at fault, for devoting more time for work than fixing my relationship. taking time off work to spend the afternoon with cheyenne every now-and-again would have helped us comunicate. communication is the second step in romance. you would be suprised how much talking to a person who understands you can open up your heart. it releases feelings of vulnurability. cheyenne and i never communicated well. Cheyenne has a big tempur and over reacts about nearly everything that i share with her. i'm the jealouse type- always paranoid that cheyenne is going to leave me for a "better man".

Intamacy is the last step to romance. by intamacy, i dont nessasarily mean sex. a single kiss can be more romantic than recieving oral. i dont think cheyenne and i nessisarly have a problem in that department- other than the times i wanted sex and she didnt, but thats not uncommon for any relationship. cheyenne and i have been through more complications than any couple that i've ever known. having a demanding job that requires detication and endless hours adds stress to our already rocky relationship. with my job, there is always temptation to cheat. i feel like cheyenne has givin into temptations more times than i have- and that explaines why im so paranoid about her leaving me. at the end of everyday, i love cheyenne. nothing seems more right than crawling into our bed and holding her in my arms. to me, that is romance. sure, it wouldnt hurt to tell cheyenne the way i feel about her- the way i have felt since day one. there has never been a time that i have fallen out of love with Cheyenne.